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    Strawberry Letter - 40 and Frustrated

    Wednesday, October 15, 2008, 06:46 AM EST [Strawberry Letters]

    Date: 10/15/2008
    Subject: 40 and Frustrated

    Good morning Steve, Shirley, Tommy, and Carla I am a 40 year old woman with a 20 year old daughter, (who has a 2 year old) and I also have a 14 year old son. We lost their father nearly 3 years ago. In the same year of my husbands death I relocated to another state. I feel my kids and I have adjusted pretty well and have been very thankful to the Lord for the change and the fresh start. Well here is my problem. In 2007 a male friend of mine contacted me after 23 years and we have been talking ever since. Our friendship has blossomed into a relationship. To get right to the point, my mother who lives 700 miles away is very upset by this relationship. She constantly tries to tell me what to do and to basically leave him alone. He lives about 2 1/2 hours away from me and comes to visit every weekend that he can and I go there when I can. My mother feels this is wrong and that I need to devote all my time to my children. Did I mention I have not worked outside the home since we moved to this new state and have been here for my kids and grandson. As a matter of fact, I watch the baby while my daughter attends college. My mother feels me leaving the kids for one night and 2 days (maybe once a month) will scar them as they get older and create problems emotionally. Nearly each time I speak to my Mom over the phone she brings this up and tells me it is wrong for him to stay here and for me to go there. In a conversation we had months ago, she said she was tired of talking about it and was done. Wrong! she still continues to bring up the subject and says she is not going to stop telling me that what I am doing is wrong and not a good example to my children until I stop going there and he stops coming here. I thougtht I had made myself clear to her that I am a grown woman and would not hurt my children for anything or anyone in the world. However, she continues to badger me and recently sent me a Dear Abbey article regarding a woman who was divorced for a year and dating a man and is thinking about moving him in with her and her children and the daughter being upset by it. I did not appreciate her sending me the article at all. First of all, I don't feel the situations are the same and frankly I am sick of her tactics. Am I wrong or is she stepping over her bounds? 40 and frustrated

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    Strawberry Letter - Too Old for My Age???

    Tuesday, October 14, 2008, 06:43 AM EST [Strawberry Letters]

    Date: 10/14/2008
    Subject: Too Old for My Age???

    Good Morning Morning Show, I am a 19 year old female who is currently living with my mom in a house along with my brothers. We are on housing where the government assists you with your rent (and no man is allowed to stay with you might I add) my mom has her boyfriend living there with us. He was working a half descent job until he quit. Now he is currently living off unemployment checks and has no steady income to help out for rent and utilities. He lounges around and watch tv all day long while her kids go and work for them to have a roof over their head, and looks at my brother and I for more money towards things in the house (food, soap, tissue, toothpaste). I never mind giving her money until I see that when we give money thats where it ends. Guys I don't try to take anything away from her I just want her not to choose this low life over her kids.I just want my mom back, the old mom I used to know. But I wanna move out on my own, but I know my help is what she needs because she isn't working and the other income in the house isn't enough. So will it be wrong to leave and let her fall on her own butt? Or should I just walk aound not saying anything anymore,and just deal with it??? Please help me out I hope I will hear you guys advice one day over the air Signed I miss my mama!�

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    Strawberry Letter - Miss Heart Broken

    Monday, October 13, 2008, 06:03 AM EST [Strawberry Letters]

    Date: 10/13/2008
    Subject: Miss Heart Broken

    Hello everybody, I was recently in a 8 year relationship and 3 months ago we got married. Well this is my problem - he took my wedding ring and pawned it. I did not know until I was looking for a receipt and I found that one. After looking around I saw that wasn't all he had taken. I was so hurt. I didn't say anything for 3 days - I had to think about how I wanted to ask him about it. When I did he got very upset and hit me in front of his mother and our baby boy. Now he wants to come home ,but I want him to stay away. His moma said I don't have any good reason to divorce him. She wants me to get him some help,and acts as if its my problem. When I tell him I do not want him back he throws up the fact that his moma help me get a job. I don't see it that way since I had to take all those tests to even get the job ,she only gave them my name for the program. Anyway he is saying that he will kill himself and I'm afraid that he will or maybe he will hurt me .I told his moma this and she acted as if nothing is wrong.I have contacted my apartment manager to keep him off the property , but he still comes around I'm afraid of him ,I pray to GOD that everything works out and he goes away. PLEASE help me !!!!

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    Strawberry Letter - Raising the Whitest Black Man

    Thursday, October 9, 2008, 06:10 AM EST [Strawberry Letters]

    Date: 10/09/2008
    Subject: Raising the Whitest Black Man

    I am a 44 yr old white woman I cohabitated with the love of my life ..a black man for 8yrs ..many many years ago. He developed a crack cocaine habit that I could not compete with so I left when my daughter was 4yrs old and my son was 4 months old. I raised them with positive reinforcement, I gave them a strong foundation and guided them to be individuals . I have sheltered them from the racial indifference of society ,and explained it to them as they encountered it in their lives.. they were educated in a private christian school.. predominantly white..only because I wanted them to be where all God's children sit down and learn together, and not teased or tormented because of the color of their skin , my daughter took after her father she is brown skinned brown eyed, my son took after me , he is white skinned and green/blue hazel eyes.my daughter is a strong , independent beautiful woman, my son has never had a man ..much less a black man to model himself after I could only guide him with virtue and character and let him find the man inside that he wants to become. My son is 19 now and going to college and I see more and more each day that he is evolving to be recognized as a black man..and I am so happy he is finding his true I identity...since he has never been exposed to a black man that he can be proud of and model himself after ..How can I guide him to reach his full potential as the whitest green eyed black man that society will respect and accept.

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    Strawberry Letter - I Want Her Gone!

    Wednesday, October 8, 2008, 06:40 AM EST [Strawberry Letters]

    Date: 10/08/2008
    Subject: I Want Her Gone!

    Greetings to all, I am a 30 year old black female who just recently married my high school crush. After high school my husband and I went our separate ways and pursued separate lives. We reunited 13 years later through a mutual friend and sparks flew. We have been married for two years now and have a combined family of seven. He had three children from his first wife, I had one from a former relationship and we have one together. On to my drama, his ex-wife (the hot mess) gave up custody of their three children because she wanted to be single and untied down again. My husband (he's white) and I have the children and I love them as though they were mine by birth. Although my husband and I both have good jobs we pursued child support for the children. Things were fine in the beginning but now his ex-wife (O she's black) has stopped paying child support & insist that she needs to get her life together. My husband and I are now catching heck from his ex-wife's family for pursing child support. Her family keeps using the race card insisting that its hard for a 40 year old black woman in this world. HELLO!! My babies are hurting now because they are the product of an interracial marriage. One of my babies actually asked "Did mommy leave us because we didnt come out brown enough?" It brought me to tears to hear him say this. I know they dont know any better but they are grasping for some reason for their mothers abandonment. Please let me know if I am wrong for wanting this hot mess of a hag, pitiful excuse for a black woman (Correction Pitiful Excuse for a WOMAN period) out of my babies lives. Sincerly I Want Her Gone

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